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Frankly, on a personal note, I’ll prefer love marriage over arranged marriage because of the many reasons known (well, mostly are known) and unknown.
Now, close your eyes and just think how would you want your wife to be?
 Tall or short?  Intelligent or dumb? Understanding or nagging? Independent or dependent? Fair or dark? Virgin or non-virgin? And there are many more criteria’s that can be added to the list.
And now, ask yourself very frankly that will be able to know all this the first time that you meet her or say the second time?  She may not open up to you or she even may. But, in the end if she doesn’t and then few years from then when you are Mr. & Mrs. And then suddenly one day she tells you that she loves someone else and so she wants a divorce or even worse than that, she says that she has an illegitimate child of her own with her lover or the worst someday, she just drops the bomb on you and says that originally she is a male and had gone under sex-change. What then? Your whole world will come crashing down. I’m not at all implying that any of these is actually ever gonna happen especially that sex- change one, but neither am I ignoring the fact that if not the third point, the other two might happen and before you realize what she just said, you’d want to jump out of the nearest window. There are chances that all these might also happen in a love marriage.
The thing is that, the world is now divided, one part is formed by our parents and the latter, us. Back in their times also, “cheating” among partners happened but the proportion was less and now it just seems to be increasing exponentially and this is a matter of concern because all that a man or a woman desires is to have a “better-half” with whom he/she spends rest of their life and that’s all that matters but in this present world, there lies this high requirement of “pleasure” that every partner in a couple desires and sometimes when one of them is not able to provide, the other seeks to find pleasure in other way and that is what leads to the ultimate end of a relationship.
Let alone, cheating and stuff, what about “household violence”?
When a girl gets married all that her father wishes is a better life for her and this what I say have witnessed in our village, girls are married off in an early age and then sent to her new home and there, she barely even knows that person but yet she is confident of the choice that her parents have made for her but what if in the future she comes to know that her husband is a drunkard and to top that she even gets beaten because apparently his mood is not good. So, this is one of the drawbacks of arranged marriage and this as we all know is very common. If she would have known her, she wouldn’t have ever got married to such a “human”.
You, see in love marriage people know each other and keep knowing each other until they are confident enough to walk to the altar or to become one from two and this improves the “trust-issue” among them and she knows his likes, dislikes, comforts, discomforts and an awful lot than a person can ever in a single-meet. The thing is that if you are dating someone then it is like a trial, if it doesn’t work, then you don’t buy that stuff or in this case don’t get married to but the direct leap to the marriage in arranged type does not guarantee that you two are perfect for each other and what if it fails? Then there are only two options left “live it” or “leave it”. This is the basic difference between these two “genres” of marriage.
I’m not all saying that arranged marriage is always doomed (in this present world) but just saying that if it comes down to comparing to the chances that a person would take, then I guess most will choose the second option i.e. love marriage or at least that is what I’ll choose.
This post was drafted in response to the contest "Love Ya Arranged Marriage" (http://www.facebook.com/LoveYaArrange)